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I cant sing. I swear alot. Sometimes I don’t brush my hair. I’m over weight and I’m far too serious. But I also love to sing into a hairbrush, dance like a dick, laugh too much at inappropriate times, stay up far too late reading guidance cards for my gfs and smiles at strangers.

I am me. I yell, I motherse. I drink cacao, I drink bourbon. I’ve been in love, I’ve had my heart broken.  I cry and I laugh. Embracing my light and dark, accepting my happy and unhappy, learning to roll with the punches is about trusting that I am a soul having a human experience. Love of the self is the ultimate goal. I will never claim to be perfect or ‘healed’. I claim to be all of me, living out loud and giving no fucks about fitting in and projecting a certain image. I am perfectly imperfect.

​How much are you being you, and how much are you being what everyone else has told you to be?

 

Mind. Body. Soul.

We need all 3 of these to truly be present and balance out our time here on earth whilst we experience what its like as a soul being a human.

All things spiritual. Crystals, Sage, Astral Travel, Energetic Residues, Grounding. These things are real, believe it or not. And in order to ground ourselves onto this earth pane we must learn to acknowledge and manipulate energies.

Living in 2018 is not the same as living in 1988. Our children don’t spend the same amount of time outside, they don’t spend as much time in natural water or connecting with children. They spend a huge amount of time around technology, stressed anxious parents and fast moving energy.
Nurture may look different than it used to. Here’s some tips that I use on grounding and calming my daughter using the elements.
What I notice when I do this is how safe and content she feels during and after this.

The Earth Element
This is the element that is our pace of grounding. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. It gives us stability and strength whilst maintaining flexibility. Connecting to mama earth is where we go to feel at home and feel in place inside our physical bodies. It helps us to become more in tune with our bodies and to get out of our heads.

• Suggestion: Take your children to the river, the lake, a bush walk or even just a paddock. Talk about the nature that you see. Allow them to feel. Play some music if you like. And where possible get them to walk barefoot or stand in the water.

• Suggestion: Teach your children to ground into the earth by standing still with eyes closed and imagining they are a tree. Imagine there are beautiful colourful roots coming from their feet into the earth, that it connects onto a gorgeous crystal about half a metre below the earth and then goes all the way through until it connects with a warm orange colour.

 

The Water Element
Water is nature and it flows. It satisfies thirst and it cleanses and purifies. It releases and represents emotions. It goes around obstacles and continues to flow. Without water we can not survive.

• Suggestion: Baths are such an excellent source of cleansing and grounding. Place some Epson salt, rock salt, baking soda and essential oils into a warm bath. Try Lavender, Frankincense, Ylang Ylang, sandalwood, Myrr, Patchouli or other earthly plant type oils.

 

• Suggestion: Allow your child to cry and say silly things or overexaggerated things for a moment. Tell them you understand. Tell them that it must be sore for them. Tell them you see how upset they are. Try not to fix the situation for the moment, just allow the emotions through. Once they have finished, hold them or cuddle with them. And then where possible send them off to the shower to let the water cleanse them.
  

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The Air Element
Breath is the flow of life.

• Suggestion: Teach your child to breath if for 2 slow counts, hold for 1 count and then breath out for 2 slow counts. Do it with them. Place their hand on their tummy and close down the eyes so they can connect with their breath.

 

• Suggestion: Head down to a windy area and run through the wind with your child. Let your hair blow in the breeze and breath in the air while feeling the earth beneath you.

The Fire Element
Fire is about passion. Energy. Manifesting. Action. The sun provides vitamin D so remember to allow the sunlight on your skin.

• Suggestion: Light a small candle at bedtime and play a meditation that incites imagination and manifesting magical journeys. Place red and orange coloured crystals along the child’s body whilst they fall asleep. Also use oil blends for calming, protection and intuition.  

 

• Suggestion: Do a vision manifesting board with your child. Use magazines and crayons, pastels, felts and teach them to close down their thoughts and draw whatever comes to mind. No analysing and no pre-deciding what is to be drawn. This is the essence of intuitive creation.
  

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You got this mama xox

The opposite of assertive is passive. Submissive women are impacting our children.
We are teaching them that it is ok to be with men that abuse us. That it is ok to have friends who use us. That is is acceptable to bully each other to get what we want. We are showing them how to self sacrifice and that we dont matter. We are doormats.

We need to learn to have boundaries and be assertive. To keep ourselves safe and fufilled. To know that we have no conditions.

We are unconditional. In every way we choose to be. The universe is unconditional. There are no limits other than the limits we place on ourselves.

Unconditional love. Unconditional fire. Unconditional me. Unconditional you.

Unconditional motivation to use my vision to pull me and guide me to use my fire to make an impact while I am on this earth.

​Do you notice the limits you place on yourself are your limits? Do you notice where you submit to others when really you wish to tell them to fuck off?

How many of you feel pressured by society to be a perfect parent? How many of you feel like you are being judged on the daily by ‘better’ parents? And how many of you, be honest here, judge other parents on the daily?

So how may of you would like to learn a few tips of how to be the perfect parent in today’s day and age?

Great. If you’re still reading, you must have said yes to the last question!

My name is April and I’m just a girl, a mum, being me in this world. What I want to share with you today is some tools and tips to guide you towards being the mum that you want to be an d learning to fuck opinions. As you implement these and your child’s behavior changes you will naturally start to feel more confident.

Am I a perfect parent? No. Do I swear? Do I yell sometimes and not listen. Yes. Do I sometimes sleep in and buy an artificial lunch on the way to school? Yes. Shit I even sometime still feed my kid on noodles for dinner. Am I late to assembly’s? Do I spend too much time on my phone? Do I get frustrated and wish there was an off switch on her voice box? Yes. Yes to it all. I am not a perfect parent.

So what. Shoot me.

You know who I am perfect to? Perfect for? My kid. That little girl who smiles at me in the morning and says ‘good morning mummy’. The kid who strokes my hair while I’m asleep. The kid who still wants to hold my hand down the street at just under 7 years of age. The kid who will run to hug me and tell me everything will be fine during my long tortuous separation with her father. The girl who taught me that I should be speaking to myself, the way I speak to her. With love.
Yeah, that’s who I’m perfect to. And guess what, that’s good enough for me. And you know how I know that I’m doing a perfect job with her? Well, I quite simply listen.

Me: OMG look at me I’m so fat I look so gross
Addison: Mummy!! You do not look fat and you are not fat.
Me: Do you really mean that?
Addison: Mama, its what’s inside (points to her heart), not what’s on the outside, that matters. (Smiles at me and has doe like eyes).

Fuck yeah I won the parenting jackpot. How lucky am I to get a kid like this?

No. False. Luck has nothing to do with it. It took 4 years to get pregnant. Lots of trials and tribulations but one thing I have down pact. I feel my kid. I connect with her on a soul level. I know when she’s hurting. I know when she needs me. And I know when she’s ungrounded.

So lets talk about what that looks like. Some tips you say? Hmmm, ok, from one perfect parent to another. Let’s shoot

1: This child was created from your flesh and blood.
Nobody else has a fukn clue about what’s inside them as well as you do.  Mothers instinct. It is a real thing and it was a gift from god. Your instruction manual. Use it. Close down your eyes, focus on your breathing and if it don’t feel right, it aint. It just fucking aint.

2. Your voice will become your child’s inner voice.
Get down onto their level and look them straight in the eye. Feel straight from your heart (trick is to not cry), and tell them how they make your heart feel. How the way they jumped in the puddle today although you yelled at the time, makes you proud of them because you secretly admire their freedom and lack of inhibitions. How when they shared the toy with the screaming baby at the mall, made you want to cry because you love how generous and kind they are. Tell them good things every single day without fail.

3. Bath time, book time, bed time.
Yup. This makes a huge difference. Its sometimes the only time we put our phones away and listen to our children so if you haven’t don it much start earlier, they will start talking to you about their little lives. Let them choose the books they like. And no correcting if they are reading. Its about connection not education. Read to them books that express to them how much you adore them. Books that teach them morals and values. And books that are plain fun, like the Gruffalo.

4. Empathetic parenting
Children aren’t the way they used to be. Their feelings matter now. More than ever. When they are behaving in a way that is not acceptable to yourself, first acknowledge how they feel. And then set the boundary. Children demand to be seen, heard and understood. This does not mean you allow them to be spoilt brats. It just means you have allowed them to have a feeling, and the steered them to the direction that you wish them to take.

5. Apologise
Apologise to them. You fuck up. All the time I’m sure of it. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be a human. Say sorry. Not when you’re an emotional mess, but when you are in the right frame. Quietly. Look them in the eye on the ground level we spoke of, and say I’m sorry for…..”. Teach them by showing them what a sincere apology looks like.
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6. Let it go. Stop focusing on what you did wrong and focus on doing better. Focus on what you did right. Focus on loving yourself more today than you did yesterday. Once we learn to love ourselves, our little monkeys will learn to love themselves even more. This is the essence of life. Self love.

7. Is there any reason why? 
Ask this question when your pissed off they once again messed up your meditation room when they know dam well they shouldn’t. The answer might suprise you. I’m only 6 mama and sometimes I get so excited to play with my friends that I forget it’s a quiet only room.

8. Let them fall asleep with you sometimes.
This ones simple. You know how you feel when your man is away? And its lonely in the bed? Well come on now, kids love falling asleep with the one they love too. Let them sometimes

9. Remember their age.
This world is so fast paced that we tend to think our children are older than they are. They aren’t. Their emotional intelligence is still being fostered. Acknowledge this and step back. In a world full of adults, we need our kids to be kids.

10. Laugh.
Be a dick with them. Dance and sing like its karaoke. Show them the big kid inside of you. Let your barriers down with them. Paint your face like batman. If your kid doesn’t tell you ‘your funny mama’, then you my dear have let life become far too serious. Take off the masks.

Even just implementing one tip into your relationship with your child, will make a difference.
Now go. Go be a perfect parent.
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Much loves xox

A true intimate connection with our children is what truly inspires life. Conscious parenting, showing my daughter how to ground into the earth, connect into her intuition and be herself in this world. Guiding her to have enough self worth that she knows how to keep boundaries, have confidence and be kind.

Childlike state teaches us what its like to truly just be, surrender, receive, forgive, play and trust. I believe the children are the future and I believe that through my connection with my daughter together we will show other mum’s and daughters how to connect and parent their way through this very different time on our earth. My daughter is my one true inspiration.

When was the last time you looked into the depths of your child’s eyes without either one of you squirming away?