Kids express emotions differently to us. They cry about silly things because they are unsure how to cry about the deeper things. Sometimes all you can do is give cuddles and be with them. Let them know you got them
If I could change the past? I would have learnt the following much quicker.
- Be assertive and do not allow myself to be manipulated and lied to. My intuition knew the whole time. Yup the entire 16 years
- I would show my daughter that its unacceptable to be treated with disrespect by not allowing myself to go through it over and over
- I would show my daughter that you are allowed requirements, and a man that has more than 1 woman is not acceptable to me
- I would protect myself legally and not relie on someone who is dishonest to have our best interests at heart
- I would prosecute anyone who bullied me online rather than respond
I can’t go back and change the past. I must accept, and I do, that I did my best.
What I can do now?
- Do not let those same words that had me hooked, continue to infiltrate me
- Watch actions over words in everyone
- Keep my doors shut to people who don’t fufill my requirements whilst keeping my heart soft
- Listen to the inner voice. If its telling me someone or something is off, accept it
- Parent consciously. Be that parent you were before all the heartache happened
- Be assertive. Have boundaries. Surround myself with people who wish to be better.
Submissiveness in women is huge at the moment and that’s something we can change. All it takes is a willingness to be stronger and an unyielding faith that you can.
And you can I know. Because I’m doing it